Thursday, May 13, 2010

Hollywood Really is Different

Imagine in your hometown of Anyplace, USA, a video surfaced in which a man of 44 years old was shown rubbing his crotch against the buttocks of a 16 year old girl.

What would happen to the man of 44 years, in Anyplace, USA? Arrest? Sex offender registry for life? Forced to live under a bridge?

It's happened.

People get hysterical about any perceived exploitation of children, especially by adults. In most towns. For instance, in January a soldier in Afghanistan (fighting our "war on terror!") faced courtmartial when his mother sent him a photo of a young relative of his... in a bathing suit.
An Illinois National Guard soldier in Afghanistan has been charged by the U.S. Army with possessing child pornography over pictures of a young relative his mother says she sent him.

Terri Miller of Galesburg says she sent her son, Specialist Billy Miller, pictures of the little girl to help him get over his homesickness.

The pictures show the child in a swimsuit playing a wading pool and sitting on a truck. In one, the girl is wearing a swim suit and part of her buttocks are exposed.

The Army says Miller will stay in Afghanistan until his court martial. His unit came home last August. Miller faces jail time, if convicted.

Terri Miller says the pictures are innocent.

WQAD TV reports that the child is a relative Billy treated as his own child when the girl was diagnosed with cancer as her father was going through boot camp. The family notes that the same pictures are on family computers and on Facebook pages, and no one else has been investigated.

"You have no clue how it eats me up", said a crying Terri Miller. "I blame myself every day, every day, if I wouldn't have sent the pictures he would be home."
(Via Nobody's Business)

And yet, in Hollywood, a 44 year-old producer can be videotaped rubbing his genitals against the buttocks of a 16 year-old girl and...

Um, what's happened to him, exactly?

TMZ has the video, which can be viewed here. (Can't embed it and I'm not sure I want to, anyway).
Miley Cyrus felt more than the beat last summer as she got downright nasty on the dance floor with a slightly older gentleman during a wrap party for a movie ... and TMZ has obtained the video.

Miley -- who was 16 at the time -- was dancing with 44-year-old Adam Shankman during a wrap party last summer in Georgia for the movie, "The Last Song." Shankman, who is openly gay, produced the movie as well as "Hairspray" and other flicks and is a judge on "So You Think You Can Dance?"

The people who shot the video say they were offended by the dirty dancing -- which included a graphic lap dance.

We're told Miley's parents were not at the wrap party. Miley's reps had no comment.
The video pretty plainly shows the 44 year-old Mr. Shankman groping the 16 year-old Ms. Cyrus, and then the two wandering off the dance floor where Mr. Shankman takes a seat, and Ms. Cyrus continues rubbing.

Try to imagine this video appearing on your local news. Substitute the assistant manager of some local semi-prominent business for the "movie producer," and "his 16 year-old employee" for the "actress."

Wouldn't there at least be an investigation by the police? Whether the girl's parents complained or not, wouldn't there be some kind of investigation?

Who would work with such a person ever again-- a middle aged man who rubs his groin against a girl? Would you want to work with such a person?

Well, I hope people are calling out the responsible person for their bad judgment!
It seems Miley Cyrus has danced her way into another round of media scrutiny.
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This isn’t the first time Miley’s moves have drawn criticism. The singer was called out for a performance at last year’s Teen Choice Awards in which she pole danced on top of an ice-cream cart.
Waitasec-- it's the 16 year-old whose moves have "drawn criticism"? A 16 year-old girl is rubbing against a 44 year-old man and it's the girl who's drawing the criticism?

Are you f*cking kidding me?

Surely not everyone is blaming the child in this!
What do you think about this – is Miley Cyrus somebody you want your kids to be looking up to anymore?
Whaddahell?

Why does any judgment of Ms. Cyrus come into this at all? Maybe she makes a goofy mistake by beginning to "dirty dance" with an adult (and no, it does not matter if he's gay or straight), but for crying out loud the adult didn't say, "This is wrong, Miley, cut it out."

The question people should be asking is, "Will you continue to watch 'So You Think You Can Dance,' or any of the films this guy produces?" Not, "Has Miley Cyrus fallen in your estimation?"

She's 16 years old, for crying out loud (at the time of the "lap dance," anyway. She is at an age where her decision-making skills are unformed.
For many years it was thought that brain development was set at a fairly early age. By the time teen years were reached the brain was thought to be largely finished. However, scientists doing cutting-edge research using magnetic resonance imaging, or MRI, have mapped the brain from early childhood into adulthood and found data contrary to these beliefs. It now appears the brain continues to change into the early 20's with the frontal lobes, responsible for reasoning and problem solving, developing last.
It was totally and unequivocally the responsibility of the adult to stop her, immediately.

Luckily, the TMZBots understand this, right?


Okay, those are just comments. To be fair, some of the commenters do say that Mr. Shankman should have exercised his adult judgment and put a stop to the whole sordid mess, but still-- a lot of commenters left vituperative insults for Ms. Cyrus.

The 16 year-old. Exercising poor judgment.

16 and exercising poor judgment. Which is what all 16 year-olds do. That's why she needs adults with good judgment around her. Apparently she does not have this.

A few days ago I wrote a short piece about Ms. Cyrus's new song and video "Can't Be Tamed." That video, I suggested, was, ironically, pretty tame.

Who knew just how tame it was? Filmed about a year after her "lap dance" video, it appears that Ms. Cyrus is becoming more demure in her old age.

Kids push boundaries. Adults are supposed to be there to stop them. TMZ notes that Ms. Cyrus's family was not at the party in question. I'm reluctant to harp on them about that because it's entirely possible they believed-- or made arrangements with some of the-- adults at the party would watch out for her.

What parent expects their daughter is going to attempt to give a lap dance to a 44 year old man, and the man in question is going to not only accept said lap dance but actually grope her on the dance floor?

Parents can't be around 24 hours a day. I have no idea of what kind of relationship Ms. Cyrus has with her parents.

But there were other adults there. That party was full of adults. Full of potential accessories after the fact.

Try to imagine those people walking down the street of Anyplace, USA, the day after that video surfaced. How would you treat them?

Hollywood really is different. Everyone's afraid of offending everyone else. Everyone's afraid of looking like a "square." You learn to keep your mouth shut, if you ever want to work in that town again.

Even if a 16 year-old girl is rubbing against a 44 year-old man. You just keep your mouth shut. And maybe, if you're lucky, you'll get hired to be that 44 year-old man's assistant!

UPDATE @2:47 PM PST

TMZ has just posted a story in which Ms. Cyrus's father, Billy Ray Cyrus, reacts to the video.
Billy Ray Cyrus is blowing off the controversy over his then 16-year-old daughter Miley Cyrus grinding on a 44-year-old man -- saying, "It's what people her age do."
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Papa Billy says Miley was just "having fun."
This is an example of the warped thinking in Hollywood. True, people her age do bump and grind-- with each other.

If she's bumping and grinding against a grown man, the grown man should have the sense and decency to put a stop to it.

Mr. Cyrus is, for some reason (maybe he wants to ensure his daughter can still get work?), deflecting from the real issue here, which is that Mr. Shankman, a 44 year-old man, was groping and grinding against a 16 year-old girl.

Again, imagine yourself in Anyplace USA. Imagine such a video surfaced, and then imagine what you'd think of a father who said, "She was just being a 16 year-old kid. Wharn't nothin'," instead of, "If I ever find that middle aged jackass who was grinding against my daughter I'll knock him out."

Like I said, Hollywood really is different. If you want your daughter to have a career there, be prepared to let her, well, grind against middle aged men.



Miley Cyrus pic source.

1 comment:

shampoo said...

yes... the adults shouldn't have let this continue. however, I think miley is just having a hard time figuring out when what is o.k. I really believe this is what has to be what the adults around her want from her.