Friday, February 11, 2011

Representative Chris Lee victimized by untrustworthy woman

The sending of intimate photos to a romantic or potential romantic partner is a wonderful way to quickly establish intimacy and trust. "Here is a photo of me, at my most vulnerable," it says. "I am at your tender mercy."

The (American) football player Brett Favre sent intimate photos of his most intimate body parts to a young woman, and he paid dearly for that. And now, a man with a slightly less important job -- a "representative" in the US Congress -- has found himself in a similarly delicate situation. All because he trusted a woman.

The above photo was sent by Mr. Chris Lee, then a "representative" of the people of a certain New York state congressional district, to a woman called Yesha Callahan. Gawker has the tawdry tale of the honeytrap:
On the morning of Friday, January 14, a single 34-year-old woman put an ad in the "Women for Men" section of Craigslist personals. "Will someone prove to me not all CL men look like toads?" she asked, inviting "financially & emotionally secure" men to reply.

That afternoon, a man named Christopher Lee replied. He used a Gmail account that Rep. Christopher Lee has since confirmed to be his own. (It's the same Gmail account that was associated with Lee's personal Facebook account, which the Congressman deleted when we started asking questions.)

By email, Lee identified himself as a 39-year-old divorced lobbyist and sent a PG picture to the woman from the ad. (In fact, Lee is married and has one son with his wife. He's also 46.)
A woman -- one of the most untrustworthy of human genders -- placed an ad on Craigslist in which she dared someone to send her a provocative photo. When a man obliged her, he tasted the bitter sting of betrayal.

Infernal woman!
The woman says she cut off contact when she searched for Lee online and concluded he'd lied about his age, occupation, and marital status. Then she forwarded us the correspondence.
He misrepresented certain aspects of his personal life because the two were sharing an online courtship. He wasn't entirely sure she could be trusted (obviously he was right about that!), and yet he still wanted her to know that he felt there was cause to trust her -- hence, the photo.

And what a photo. No, it's not the full-on penis shot of Brett Favre, but it is an intimate display of a man flexing, so as to present himself as a suitable sexual partner. "We will make good babies," that photo is saying. "I am from strong breeding stock."

The photo is that of a man being true to his evolutionary nature. And he was betrayed. Honeytrapped. By a woman who could not be trusted.

And just who is this infernal honeytrapper?
A faculty specialist for the University of Maryland and single mother of a preteen son, [Yesha] Callahan hashed over the e-mails with her social circle of young professionals. Lee's deception was out of bounds, her friends agreed, and Callahan began to see this as a cautionary tale.

"I assumed that other people have probably come across him as well, and he had lied to them," she said. "I felt annoyance at just the audacity of people thinking that they're not going to get found out when they are lying."
She placed an ad in which she goaded men, taunting them, teasing them to send her racy photos. Oh, won't someone prove that not all Craigslist men look like toads? she innocent asked, in that seductive tone (actually it was typed with a keyboard, but it was no doubt a very seductive keyboard). So very innocent. One can see why she'd feel scandalized by the "audacity" of one her respondents.

So much so that she betrayed the man who'd responded to her ad (she placed the ad, don't forget) by gossiping to her "social circle of young professionals."
Callahan said she stopped corresponding with Lee after about 10 e-mails -- when he asked her to send a racy photo. (He'd already sent her the now-infamous shirtless photo of himself.) "I was kind of like, okay, no, he's just looking for things I'm not interested in."
And yet, Ms. Callahan, you placed the ad. You're the one who solicited "the now-infamous shirtless photo")! When he asks you to respond in kind you feign disinterest.

As men continue to use social media to embrace their evolutionary imperatives, women continue to mock, to debase, to humiliate them. Brett Favre, and now, Chris Lee, are the standards of the new media victimization that haunts all decent men just trying to get a little on the side. In this brave new world, women are using mens' natural instincts against them.

I don't mean to suggest that men stop sending such photos of themselves. It is still a great way to show a woman how highly  you esteem her, and how deep your trust runs. For every Chris Lee and Brett Favre there are untold thousands of which we've never heard -- thousands who are not betrayed. I do mean to suggest that men watch for the modern day honeytrap, and plan accordingly.

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